If they work do you accept the fact their job might not be high paying? A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. Accept that not everyone will behave as you do. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. Sometimes people get very annoyed by aspects of their partner … Accept their flaws. The only alternative to the typically fruitless hope of getting one’s partner to change, is to simply accept that they’re never going to. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. Síguenos / Follow us! They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partner’s behaviors. To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. Accept that you love them. And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are. By Sandra Rose. Well, no. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. 1. Accept the things you cannot change. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. I see so many people talk about being the breadwinner, or the SAHM. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. Accept your partner for who they are! Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, you’ll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every … Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. Accept that you cannot fix your partner. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. Accept love as they are able to give it to you. Accept your partner for who they are. For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. Watch your expectations. Jan. 29, 2017. The glue to any successful marriage would be to accept your husband or wife as he/she is. Indeed, research shows that nearly 70% of marital conflicts are perpetual and unresolvable — they last a couple’s whole life through. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you don’t make any mistakes. You are the very last person who is going to change your husband or wife. I am what I am. Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. Accept that your partner is not perfect. You didn’t marry a clone of yourself! And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. In a relationship, it means accepting your partner for who they are. And if you did, you might be divorced already! Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Professional may be able to help you accept yourself for who you are the very person. 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